The Curious Coach 1: What are You Curious About Right Now?
One of the reasons I coach is that I have always been fascinated with human behavior. Always. Even as a very small child. My parents, when they were newly married, owned a very modest row of ground level apartments. In the summertime, everyone’s back doors were wide open to the breeze, as well as the […]
Who’s Got Time to Listen??? You Do!
Sam sits in front of me shaking his head. His shoulders are hunched in frustration. His mouth is a tight line, his eyes are closed. “I just can’t accept this. I’m sorry, but there’s no way. The math just doesn’t work.” Sam is a third year medical student in a large teaching hospital. He is […]
Heart Listening Challenges: Burnout & Limiting Self Perception
Powerful empathic listening is what the world most needs right now. But for those who excel in this listening style, there can be significant downsides. Maya loved her job as a residence social worker at Harper Community. She is an empathic listener, and appeared, for a long time, to have an inexhaustible supply of […]
Stop Drop & Roll into Deeper Listening
A few years ago, when my daughter was in her gap year between high school and college, she and I went out to lunch. She had been accepted into the college she very much wanted to attend, and they had signed off on her delayed start. So as far as I knew, when I sat […]
Heads Up Doc! Listening with Empathy Can Save Lives…
I am lying on a hospital bed. I’ve just woken up from the anesthesia and I’m concerned that I can’t move my left arm or leg. The nurse told me that the doctor will be in soon to speak with me. She couldn’t give me any information about why my movement is restricted, and I’m […]
Find Meaning in Uncertainty: 5 Ways to Embrace it!
We spend so much time and energy running away from uncertainty. Yet here we are, surrounded by it, marinated in it, and in some cases, choking on it. What would happen if we realized and embraced its value instead? Uncertainty on Steroids In March of 2020, just as it became clear that some weird and […]
Toxic Positivity: The True Christmas Grinch
You walk into your workplace on a deceptively “normal” day, if there is such a thing anymore. The floor is sparsely populated now, various people on vacation. All is calm, all the fluorescent lights are bright. Suddenly Liz opens the door to her office, closes it with something resembling a slam, and strides down the […]
Serendipity and New Nuggets!
Serendipity is a chance for both gratitude and increased awareness
Confirmation Bias: Tuning Out the Truth
The horse, with blinders on – filters out any unnecessary information, and for us, inconvenient information that conflicts with what we want to keep intact for ourselves. I feel like I’m doing battle with my own biases all the time now, and the election season has made it particularly challenging. “When we would like a […]
Head, Hands or Heart? Your Listening Style determines what you Hear AND what you Decide….
There’s plenty out there on how to deliver our message for maximum impact – but we are all listeners too. How we listen, and the filters we use in listening can determine much about what we absorb, the nature of our relationships and the actions we ultimately decide to take in our lives, our businesses, our world. Here’s a chance to […]